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Ven's avatar

Did you think that one kid is US citizen and the other is not. May be in the long term that can be a factor?

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CubicleDog's avatar

Yeah, we sure have talked about this a little bit! Taking this thought one step further - if we end up moving abroad again before my daughter starts speaking, then my elder son will continue to carry his Indian accent while my daughter will acquire the accent of the new region. That feels kinda mixed up as well - a US citizen son with an Indian accent and an Indian citizen daughter with a foreign accent.

But I don't really wanna overthink these things or let them be big factors in making major life decisions. I guess these things are common in today's world with people who frequently keep moving their homebase. It's up to us parents to raise our kids to be mature enough to not let factors like these become sources of conflict :)

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Ven's avatar

Glad you thought about it.

I would suggest you move back, Nithin. but your purpose in life is outperforming than being practical and staying in the US to earn a lot. I get network in the US is too artificial but that’s how the world works. In 10 years, you may see more moving out of India by selling their assets as we cannot change cultural things in India. People are becoming smart in India and realizing real estate is not worth it and they are all moving to equity. So soon there will be real estate pressure as well. So, it’s better to get away with it and be in the US for the next 10 years to secure better financial stability is my opinion but would love to get your thoughts.

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Ram's avatar

Congratulations! Having a baby and raising them are hardest jobs no matter how much help you have. That said, your wife might be having a different post partum experience compared to your first child in the US.

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CubicleDog's avatar

Thanks, Ram! I need to sensitize myself a little more and learn to empathize. I get pissed off when I see my wife carrying a grumpy face and bad mood for too long and I'll be like - "why can't you be a little more cheerful? What is so hard, with all the help we have?" It's hard for men to step into their shoes.

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Rahul's avatar

Congratulations man

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Vivek's avatar

Congrats man!

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JayJay's avatar

Congratulations Dog! This is a great reason for not posting more regularly. We had our second child during the pandemic in the US. It was so much more tiring than when we had our first. We didn’t have either of our parents this time and our baby just liked sleeping at day instead of night. We took turns staying awake at night but it’s always harder on the Mom. I watched the whole India-Aus test series this way. Thank god for parental leave.

The pictures of the hospital room looks so good compared to the hospitals here! Hope things are settling down as your daughter is able to sleep for longer. Congratulations once again!

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CubicleDog's avatar

Thanks Jay dawg! We were still in the US and our son was an infant as the first wave of the pandemic picked up, and I vividly remember the challenges we faced, with no family help. Brutal days. Can't imagine what it must've been like for you, with two kids! Hope the scars have healed :)

Please start a blog, would love to read some stories!

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